Monday, August 21, 2006

Daddy, my name.

A few weeks ago, my four year old son stopped calling me "daddy," and started calling me by my first name; and I don't like it one bit! It happened after his first sleep-over, which included his three cousins who just moved to town (ages ten, seven, and five). All of the cousins call me by my first name of course.

At first it was cute, but now it's driving me nuts! I never gave it much thought, but now I realize I want my kids to call me some derrivative of "dad" from now until the end of time.

I figured I'd give it a couple of weeks to see if it wore off, but, the opposite happened. He seems to be reinforced in his use of my first name. The other day I started stopping him everytime he called me by my first name. "Please call me 'daddy'" I tell him consistently (several dozen times per day). I sound like a step-father trying to convert a child to their new "daddy" as a result; ugh!

I'll persist with the proactive cajoling as it's having some affect; I can't take it anymore!

1 comment:

dossyshiobara said...

We got in the habit of teaching our kids to use "honorary titles" like "aunt" and "uncle" and "grandma" and "grandpa" ... even for folks who aren't strictly family, but are folks who should be respected as elders.

Our kids tried the whole "calling us by our first names" and we said "no, to you, we're Daddy and Mommy ... to other kids, we're Mr. and Mrs. Shiobara ... only other grown-ups call us by our first names."  Sometimes, other kids call us by our first names but prefixed with "Mr." or "Mrs." as appropriate--our last name must be hard to remember or pronounce, I guess.

It's good that our kids KNOW our first names, in case they get lost, etc.  (Can you imagine: "Hi, are you lost?  What's your Dad's name?"  "Daddy."  Yeah, that'll help a lot.)  But, it's also important to teach them to respect their elders, and part of that is in how you address them.

Ah, child-rearing.  Good fun.